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I want to go out!

Just put phone down to a carer who is struggling to cope with husband during the Co-Vid 19 period.   They are not always going out but husband who has dementia is agitated because he hasn't seen anybody - they normally have a few visitors.  Neighbours are doing the shopping for them and leaving it on the doorstep.  The couple are in their late 80's so not IT savy. 

He has his coat on waiting at the front door and is not interested in the back door or the garden.   She has tried distraction techniques but he is adamant he wants to go.  She has also tried to explain about social distancing/self isolation etc which is making him a little more anxious.  


edited on May 5, 2020 by Natasha Morgan
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Matthew Harrison May 1, 2020

Hi Lee, this comment really stuck with me. We are working with AS on a virtual community centre model for engaging and supporting carers and people with dementia. Do you mind if I quote you in presentations, blog posts etc in support of our virtual community centre project? - feel free to contact me directly at - thank you!

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Jennifer Bute Jun 2, 2020

This is a common problem and everyone is different. Acceptance of their distress understanding their feelings and constant reassurance is needed. Some have been helped by likening it to the war Not a lockdown but a blackout equivalent. Then of course there is always a reason it is suggested he wants to see people. Could the people dropping things off also tap on the window and smile. Which people does he want to see? Photos .. memories ..What to they bring to his life that is missing at the moment? Or does the restriction itself bring back memories of other past restrictions and what feelings are produced by that. Is it related to a particular time of day? Would music songs from the past help? What support is the carer getting We mirror emotions...

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Lesley Heath Dec 4, 2020

has anyone thought of VR, with recordings of walks in the country etc.? Maybe help individuals to feel that they've been 'out'? Nothing like roller coasters or they'll be flinging themselves all over the place. But a gentle stroll in a meadow, or along familiar streets?

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